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1 - Leave a comment, saying you want to be interviewed.
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3 - You'll update your journal with my five questions, and your five answers.
4 - You'll include this explanation.
5 - You'll ask other people five questions when they want to be interviewed.
1. You can spend a day in someone else's head, just as an observer. Who would it be?
If it can be anyone, any time, I would pick any random person from early or pre-history, especially someone from the areas (either timewise or geographically) where there's absolutely nothing but speculation. That's just the history geek in me.
If alive, an astronaut, I don't care who. It's highly unlikely I'll ever get to go to space, so... wouldn't that be an amazing experience?
2. What is the meaning of life?
42.
WHAT. IT IS.
(Serious answer: survival, plain and simple. It is the meaning and the point of life. Philosophical answer: as much happiness and comfort (though the two probably intersect) as can be obtained without harm to individuals or society.)
3. What do you think is the most important aspect to work on to get a marriage to last?
Friendship. I would have said that anyway, but it's a subject close to my heart right now. Royce and I have been fighting like crazy the last few months... and we finally realized that it's because we stopped treating each other like friends. As far as I'm concerned, the ideal marriage partner is your best friend who you also want to have lots of sex with. Let the friendship last and all you have is a sex partner, which I'm sure is really fun, but a solid foundation for marriage it ain't.
4. What chariatble cause do you wish everyone backed?
There are a lot of options here, but I'm going to go with something like Action Against Hunger or Freedom From Hunger, because a large chunk of the world's fucked-up stems from people not having the basics of life. Food is the first step.
(Though I know my career in agriculture, if I can ever get it started, will probably as quiet and unnoticed as the rest of my life, I have a vague dream of developing a hardy, nutrient-dense plant that can survive in any climate or conditions. I know this is probably nigh-impossible, but how cool would something like that be? Like the protein bricks in Firefly.)
5. If you could change one of society's preconceptions about your own gender, which would you pick?
I find this one the hardest and the easiest to answer. The hardest because I'm not sure what my own response is, without influence; the easiest because I've spent much of the day reading about rape culture (I saw a link to the Wincon BS, and from there linked to various feminist blogs).
So: the preconception that we have to be the "nice" ones, that we have any obligation whatsoever.
I do not have to be nice. I do not have to say yes, or talk, or smile, or consider your feelings, ever. I can say no and I can ignore you and I can walk away and I can kick and scream and do whatever it takes to prevent harm to myself, regardless of your intent or your gender or your anything. I can make my surroundings comfortable, if not safe, and if it takes hurting a few feelings then so be it.
The only obligations a woman has are those that every person has: be a decent human being. (It is amazing how many people UTTERLY FAIL to fulfill it).
misscam1 - Leave a comment, saying you want to be interviewed.
2 - I will respond; I'll ask you five questions.
3 - You'll update your journal with my five questions, and your five answers.
4 - You'll include this explanation.
5 - You'll ask other people five questions when they want to be interviewed.
1. You can spend a day in someone else's head, just as an observer. Who would it be?
If it can be anyone, any time, I would pick any random person from early or pre-history, especially someone from the areas (either timewise or geographically) where there's absolutely nothing but speculation. That's just the history geek in me.
If alive, an astronaut, I don't care who. It's highly unlikely I'll ever get to go to space, so... wouldn't that be an amazing experience?
2. What is the meaning of life?
42.
WHAT. IT IS.
(Serious answer: survival, plain and simple. It is the meaning and the point of life. Philosophical answer: as much happiness and comfort (though the two probably intersect) as can be obtained without harm to individuals or society.)
3. What do you think is the most important aspect to work on to get a marriage to last?
Friendship. I would have said that anyway, but it's a subject close to my heart right now. Royce and I have been fighting like crazy the last few months... and we finally realized that it's because we stopped treating each other like friends. As far as I'm concerned, the ideal marriage partner is your best friend who you also want to have lots of sex with. Let the friendship last and all you have is a sex partner, which I'm sure is really fun, but a solid foundation for marriage it ain't.
4. What chariatble cause do you wish everyone backed?
There are a lot of options here, but I'm going to go with something like Action Against Hunger or Freedom From Hunger, because a large chunk of the world's fucked-up stems from people not having the basics of life. Food is the first step.
(Though I know my career in agriculture, if I can ever get it started, will probably as quiet and unnoticed as the rest of my life, I have a vague dream of developing a hardy, nutrient-dense plant that can survive in any climate or conditions. I know this is probably nigh-impossible, but how cool would something like that be? Like the protein bricks in Firefly.)
5. If you could change one of society's preconceptions about your own gender, which would you pick?
I find this one the hardest and the easiest to answer. The hardest because I'm not sure what my own response is, without influence; the easiest because I've spent much of the day reading about rape culture (I saw a link to the Wincon BS, and from there linked to various feminist blogs).
So: the preconception that we have to be the "nice" ones, that we have any obligation whatsoever.
I do not have to be nice. I do not have to say yes, or talk, or smile, or consider your feelings, ever. I can say no and I can ignore you and I can walk away and I can kick and scream and do whatever it takes to prevent harm to myself, regardless of your intent or your gender or your anything. I can make my surroundings comfortable, if not safe, and if it takes hurting a few feelings then so be it.
The only obligations a woman has are those that every person has: be a decent human being. (It is amazing how many people UTTERLY FAIL to fulfill it).